Don’t be stupid. Please.
Wednesday, September 9, 2009 @ 2:26 pmThere’s this girl that sits next to me in my ancient art history class. She’s eeriely quiet and always looks like someone just ran over her dog. She is not very attractive and has that wallflowery nerdy look to her. She appears to be so socially disinclined that it makes me feel awkward looking at her sometimes. She gives me uncomfortable shivers.
Today we had a test in class and she had forgotten to get a scantron in order to take the test. Instead of asking anyone around her if they had an extra scantron she just kind of sat there. The odd thing about it was that she had a pencil out but really, what the fuck was she planning on writing on?
The test was starting in a matter of seconds and I noticed that she still did not have a scantron, so I pulled one out of my messenger bag and proceeded to ask her if she had one, just in case she was hiding it up her ass or something.
She replied with a rather rude and curt, “No,” and although I was put off by it I gave her the scantron that I pulled out anyway, because it was stupid for her to choose failing the test over just asking someone for a scantron, and I’m not a completely horrible person.
When I gave her the scantron she replied with a half-shocked, rushed kind of thank you that didn’t sound much like a thank you at all, but I didn’t really care. I didn’t give her the scantron to get her thanks, just to keep her from doing something dumb.
I can understand if someone is shy or something like that, but are you really going to let your shyness overwhelm you and ruin your test grade just because you couldn’t ask someone for a stupid piece of paper? I don’t understand it at all. It’s not a big deal, no one is going to hate you for asking for a scantron; people do it all the time.
You should never have to passively rely on the kindness of strangers to help you out. Sometimes you just have to learn how to fucking help yourself.
Isn’t that what we call ‘learned helplessness?’ It’s really sad.. and slightly pathetic. I just hope for her sake, she ‘grows’ out of it. >>;
You’re too way to kind, Ty. xD
I agree totally. Ask and it shall be given is what my mother always said. I have a friend who asks for stuff all the time, to the point that it is annoying at times, her saying…”Ask not, receive not.” Its sad that some people are perhaps so shy or lack personal skills to the degree that they refuse to ask for even basic necessities in times of need. . . and to top it off…are kind of rude too. She was blessed to have a person like yourself, who was able to look beyond the rudeness, in her small corner of the world on that day. I believe that everything happens for a reason…I would not be surprised if you didn’t come into her life and she into yours for a reason..who knows, perhaps you can bring her out of her unloving shell. Do keep me posted, if you don’t mind, from time to time!
Peace, Light and Love,
CordieB.
You have a kind heart, Ty. She may only be afraid and we know what that feels like. I hope Cordie is right and maybe this one will learn fortitude and the strength from you. I know you have these enough to share.
Love,
Miss D